Love matters

This morning we(Shem and I) were expressing appreciation of however we make love it is 'fresh', yet not too familiar and not too unfamiliar, without need of trying something 'different' or more extreme. That the act of love making is not the focus and what is wanted to supply 'satisfaction' or to 'get love', it is the vehicle of Love's expression...just as every moment is truly.

Just more consciously, it would seem, when 'love making'. I expressed how there used to be a confusion around sex in past relationships: the motivations for it, the whys and whatfors, what it 'meant', am 'I' good enough, all the insecurities involved....and about 'love', a confusion as to what 'it is'...but now there is not. 'Love Is'....what 'we are', 'I AM'....

Love sees the insecurities and desires and embraces them, awareness of their energy, but not a belief in them as 'real' or necessary...as to what applies to reality, they do not apply to Love. The act of love making is not 'needed', because Love is Here always, so if it comes to be enjoyed, it is...

My Beloved said this most simply profound thing this morning:

"Love does not get in the way of Love."

I laughed with this spark of a new twist on the phrase:

"Get out of your own way"

Whereas I had heard the emphasis on 'your' before, the primary importance being 'your' in the sentence, I heard it this way now:

get out of     'your own way'

Free yourself from 'your way'....choose Love...let Love has it's way.

It may seem paradoxical, but the more you consciously choose Love(not an image of what love is thought to be, but paying attention to the simply profound, still silent presence of your~Self, not any thought of 'who I am' or what anything is for that matter) the less you 'get in your own way'.

Love is not being then obstructed by the habitual nature of the personality...and yet it may appear still, just no real concern with it...and there is great and simple Joy. Not necessarily 'explosive' or most expansive, yet it can be, bust most importantly 'clear' and beautiful.

I read then these passages from Love Poems from God:



...and Rumi's father's(Bahauddin) the Drowned Book:


The Khotan Ceremony

I have heard of an old ceremony in Khotan, a region of China where Turk tribes settled. Men and young unmarried women---there heads uncovered and wearing disreputable clothing---would walk through the marketplace hand in hand. This is how the ritual started, with everyone drunk and dancing, passing cups of wine around. The party would straggle and stagger in before the Khan under the great mosque dome, where the women would partly disrobe, showing their breast to the men. Lovemaking began there in the open. They did things in public that we do only in private inside our homes. It was part of the annual clitorectomy initiation for the women of those tribes.

It makes me faint to imagine what came next, with the young women passed out drunk. Is God part of everything human beings do, even this? Qur'an 11:6 says, 'Every creature'....This world we watch is strange and disturbing. Here, for instance, are 'my' desires at the moment: I want a beautiful woman. I want wine, music, and laughter. I want everyone to see the sacredness of life. I want wide recognition for myself. I want my wantings intensified, and I want to feel the divine being poring through me every moment.

Answers came for this declaration. 'Watch bees sipping juice from flowers. Do that with the mystery of presence. Let your body become honey made from that sipping. We are the unlimited wine you dream of, the reviving light. As you restore that in yourself, you will find fulfillment for every pleasure you pursue.'

Drink zikr. The blessed cave-sleep of that will give you peace(18:9).


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If sex and pleasures come to be enjoyed, there is Love...if they do not, there is Love. If hardships come to be felt, Love welcomes them, embraces them...here in this Heart.

This is felt to be the essential misconception or 'flaw' in the presentation of 'the Secret' and they even went into this somewhat, but did not quite express the fullness of it:

That yes, there is a universal 'law of attraction', but not how we may 'think' it to be...that it is not about getting 'things' for 'somebody', but rather that 'where' or on 'what' we place attention energetically is what will be attracted, will be revealed, will 'show up', but not necessarily in circumstances of life, but merely in the quality of how circumstances are experienced or 'felt'.

Yet, there can be an affect on the circumstances...paying attention to 'negative' energy/thoughts, ruminating on them, can create 'negative' circumstances...paying attention to 'positive' energy/thoughts can create 'positive' circumstances, but not always either way.

Thought energy is limited...there could be really nothing 'wrong' but the mind's continued engagement with 'negative' thoughts and projections can create a sense of 'bad' experiences, an internal attracting/affect externalizing. There could be 'negative' circumstances showing up and by not paying attention to the thoughts about it, or by engaging in 'positive' affirmations, there could be a sense of 'good' experience with it and even a changing into 'positive' circumstances.

It's all relative...and ever changing, but what doesn't change is what is aware of it all, at the core and foundation of it all: 'You'...the background of all experience and circumstances of Life....the essential 'Being' of all creation....this that is simply here....without need of anything....is whole, complete....always....welcoming all, embracing all, letting all 'be', because there is no question of 'what things are or why they are here': they are essentially 'self' and not a 'they or that'....nothing in particular, yet everything.

In paying attention to 'yourself', essential nature, this that resonates through all creation, and not fixating on or about the forms of creation(the manifest world), then the forms of creation are not what they 'appear to be', they are 'known' to be Self...without need of fearing or desiring, or fearing desire, or desiring fear....without need of defining a 'somebody' that is attracted to 'something', attachments to 'experience' are unnecessary.

If there is an attention on attaining something 'for me' it comes from a sense of 'lack', separation, but when attention is on the simple 'being' of self that is All, any sense of separation points back to this truth of 'unity', of Self/Love.

Paying attention to a sense of 'lack' and a desire for something to fulfill this, may attract a momentary satisfaction, but this too shall pass. Both the desire AND the satisfaction....desire, satisfaction, desire, satisfaction....coming and going, with a belief that this is all there is to Life: the satisfying of desires.

But what is it that all these desires are 'wanting', what is it that is wanted or thought/felt will be gotten when they are satisfied? This is what is to be clarified, because it clarifies 'you' and then the usual things that are thought to be true about life, about you and what you 'should or shouldn't do/be' are not the 'deciding factors' that shape the experience of life and how it unfolds, or the sense of self, anymore. Yet, they are not ignored either...just not believed to be 'reality' or responded to in a known or conditioned way perhaps.

Self does not pass...Love is always here...let Love have it's way.

Paying attention to what doesn't pass fulfills every moment.

What comes of this is, what circumstances unfold, is unknown...the mind's definitions may continue to categorize, evaluate, compare and have preference, but this is irrelevant in the Light of true Beingness that is the Love of Heart, of Home, of Self....of You.

Not the mind's definition of 'who you/we are', but the essential reality 'You/We' that is unconditional Love.

Love, Peace and Hugs, You